How to Live the Questions

“Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer." ~ Rainer Maria Rilke


I truly love Rilke and this will not be the first or last time you will see me quote him. Living the questions is central to my work as a coach, a leader and a social change agent. 

In fact, living the questions is my approach to everything -- even though it is one of the hardest things to practice. 

Living the questions is about cultivating an intimate curiosity about yourself and the world around you. Living the questions well, means you do it in a generous and kind way -- with a loving and compassionate approach. 

When you live the questions -- you ask generous questions without attachment to the answer, and you become more present to the result. You open up a dialogue you might never have had before -- to an experience you didn't know was possible. 

Yeah, sure it might be uncomfortable to ask the question and not get an immediate answer (goodness knows, I want answers, too). And it might feel weird to hold space for the answer to unfold (uncertainty can be a bitch to sit with). And it might feel strange to have a leader like me say, "I don't have all the answers to your questions". But it's the kindest, most generous thing we can do for ourselves and others. 

Because living your way into the answer allows possibilities to unfold in unique ways you could never imagine possible if you were gripping to find an immediate answer. 

Loosen your attachment to getting answers. Ask generous questions. Feel the power of letting go of control. Delight in the experience of leading yourself and others from a more intuitive place. Allow yourself to step into the answer as if the answer is inevitable. And see what happens to you and the world around you. 

If you crave thoughtful questions -- the space to ask them, to delight in their possibility, and to learn from them, then I invite you to join The First Annual Superwoman Summit this October 20-22, 2017. 

Early bird ticket price expires in 12 days and tickets are going fast. 

Give yourself the gift of great questions, the opportunity to elevate your thinking around leadership for women, and the chance to see what is possible for yourself and those that you lead.