"Say what you wanna say. And let the words fall out. Honestly I wanna see you be brave" ~ Sara Bareilles
Finding your voice requires you to start talking.
For centuries, women have been told to keep quiet.
Hush little darling. Don't laugh too loud or be too opinionated. Don't be too much. They may not like you.
"Too much...too much." Those words ring in my ears. Do they ring in yours?
"Don't be too much," otherwise...
They might not like what you have to say? You might not say it just right? You could show some emotion -- heaven forbid!
Someone might think you're a bitch for speaking your mind? You could offend someone!!??
Oh no! Then you might not be liked? You might feel shame and guilt, and all the things you hate to feel because they make you feel dirty, alone and frightened?
You hate to feel dirty. You hate to feel shame. You hate to feel guilt.
I know. I hate feeling like that, too.
But, fuck it.
You will never find your voice if you don't start talking.
If you wait until the perfect moment, the perfect time for him or her -- the moment could pass and your courage could go.
The right conditions might never appear. The perfect time might never come.
Sometimes, you have to use your voice -- even if you muck it up, even if it comes out wrong. Even if they say, "you're too much." Say it.
Start speaking your truth. Practice using your voice. It might feel clumsy at first. And sometimes you might feel guilt, shame or regret over it.
But here's what will happen...
You will learn how to use your voice and you will get better at it. You will begin to know what your voice sounds like and feels like. You will refine your voice over time. And your life will change and you will change the lives of those around you. Speaking truth does that.
Most women can speak, but not every woman uses her voice. Are you using yours?
Start talking girl. I can't wait to hear what you have to say.