"Freedom is available at any time, to anyone— and so is captivity." ~ Martha Beck
I'm noticing a trend right now -- as women wake up to inequality and injustice, they tend to do one of two things...
On the one hand, some women get angry, frustrated and stressed out. They blame men or other women for the way things are. They want to stick it to the man, compete against men instead of working with them and/or they marinate in anger, feeling paralyzed by their circumstances. They adopt a victim attitude and they feel shitty about it (believe me, they tell me!)
On the other hand some women turn their anger into action. They look for ways to get educated, connected and resourced to go out and make a difference for themselves and other women. Most importantly, even if paralyzed for the moment, they don't throw up their hands and give up.
The women in this second group accept personal responsibility. They reclaim power over their choices, make decisions from an empowered place and act strategically to make a difference.
Feel Your Grief
It's okay to feel frustrated for a little while. And it's okay to get mad and process your emotions. Just don't let the frustration and anger stand in your way from doing something about it. Grieve your losses, lick your wounds, acknowledge there is still work to be done and get back out there. We need you.
Ask yourself, "How would the most empowered, boldest, badass version of me handle this situation? How can I make choices and act in ways that feel good? How can I take personal responsibility for what is mine?"
Want to take it one step further? Try this exercise:
Draw a triangle.
At the top of the triangle write down the issue you're struggling with and draw a line down the middle of the triangle. For example, you might write down a project you're struggling with or a decision you have to make about a job offer.
On the left side of the triangle write down everything you have control over in this situation and the actions you can take to make a difference. Examples might be, "I can do some research, I can ask for help, I can be honest, I can speak up."
On the right side of the triangle write down everything you do not have control over in this situation. For example, "I do not have control over how other people respond. I do not have control over whether or not this will work. I do not have control over the current job market."
Doing this simple exercise can help you go from overwhelmed, frustrated and out of control to feeling empowered, in control and ready to take action.
How are you going to respond as you continually wake up?